YES I am a first time mom! Not recently, well 3 years ago but you wouldn’t believe how often I am asked if my son is my only child, or the way when someone talks to me changes when they find out I don’t have other kids. It must be written all over my face!
It’s like I have a disorder or syndrome of some sort.
My son just had his tonsils and adenoids out and when I called a nurse to ask a question, the first thing she asked me was “is he your only child mom?” I said “yes” and suddenly every reply about my concerns from that point on felt condescending, as if I was overreacting.
Listen, there is no denying that my son is my pride and joy, the light of my life, but I’m sure most first time mothers can relate to what I’m saying! We are all different, we all mother our children differently.
I smother my child with kisses, I run to his side when he cries, I kiss his boo boos, I kiss him when he sleeps, I carry him more than I should, I hover so much that I annoy myself, I tell him I love him about 100 times a day and you know what? I’m proud of it!
I often hear that I need to stand back and let him cry, or tell him to suck it up when he hurts himself. Well the way I mother my child is a way where he will never, ever question how much his mommy loves him and he may forever be a mommy’s boy but so what? Who cares?
I’m sure after I have more children one day things will change drastically. I am learning so much with my son, things I will know better to do or not to do with my next one, but you are only a first time mom once and I am relishing in every moment. I love my son and my little family to no end!
It’s the best thing in the world to pick up and head to Costco, just the 3 of us, or surprise him with a spontaneous trip to get a Jamba Juice. I realize these are little things, but they are what make our family so special…..so to all those mom’s who are made to feel like you are crazy for caring too much, or crazy for loving your children too much, if that makes us crazy then call me crazy any day!
Don’t get me wrong, being a first time mom means dealing with overwhelming feelings of being clueless! I’m not as clueless today as I used to be but I learn something new every day!
My son is a great, little boy! He’s kind, sweet, funny, goofy and so much more, but lets not forget the hard parts….he has MASSIVE meltdowns when he doesn’t get what he wants, he whines when asking for something, he ignores me when I ask him to do something he doesn’t want to do.
Lately he’s all about picking out his own outfits and objecting to anything I want to clothe him with. He likes to manipulate my husband and I into seeing how much he can get away with almost on an hourly basis, and the list goes on!
He’s a true blue little boy! He loves his trucks, airplanes, and trains. He likes to crash his toys and build forts!
This continues to be the biggest and most important learning experience of my life and I think we all have that right to have our own experience with our children and as mothers.
I hope all of my fellow mothers out there are getting that chance with lots of love and support behind them! I am blessed to have wonderful support and love in my life so when people want to label me just to make a point, I can be proud to say, yes I have “first time mom” syndrome, and I wouldn’t have it any other way, thank you very much!