I don’t know about you but I always thought of confrontation as a negative thing. It was never portrayed in a positive light when I was a child, whether it be in school, at home or amongst friends.
If you were confrontational, you were labeled as a troublemaker or someone who was looking for a fight.
I became the girl who was scared to speak up because I didn’t want to cause waves, or start any trouble. I was labeled as nice, sweet, probably scared and seen as a pushover.
Because of my passive behavior, I encountered many situations where I was done wrong but never stood up for myself.
I saw myself as a victim! I would think “why is this happening to me? Why am I being punished when I’ve done nothing wrong?” I was clueless to the fact that I just let people walk all over me. I allowed this to happen and never once took responsibility for my behavior.
Inside I had a lot of feelings, at times anger over what someone was doing to me but never spoke up. I had opinions that I wanted to voice but nothing ever came out.
I have always had a good head on my shoulders so what was keeping me from standing up for myself in all of these situations?
There comes a time in your life where you’ve had enough experience to now realize what you would do differently, and how you would handle something in the future based off what you’ve already learned! But for many of us it takes a single situation, or a moment that we crack and say “that’s it, I’m done!”
The past 20+ years of my life have been that lead up for me, and one day, I was D.O.N.E.! I realized, I have a husband, and a son and when I allow people to walk all over me, and disrespect me, I am also allowing it to happen to my family!
I woke up and took charge of my life! Some may say it was confrontational, some may say I was looking for a fight but I saw it as finally standing up for myself, what was right and what I believed in! It changed my life!
I turned a corner and never looked back! I have lost a few loved ones along the way because I wasn’t weak enough anymore. I wasn’t a victim anymore! I started putting what I had always “thought” into “action!”
Don’t let anyone label you! Because I have taken charge of my life and left the negative people behind, I have been labeled as stuck up, a bitch, heartless, cruel and so much more! But I’ve never felt more “myself” than I do today!
Don’t let anyone tell you who you are! I know who I am and if that means I have to be seen as a stuck up, cruel, heartless, confrontational, bitch (pardon my French) then bring it on!
Because that’s not me, that’s just who you choose to see!